This was a question on LDS-CMERs
> Hi everyone. I’m new here. I’m a single, stay at home, work from home, homeschooling mom.
Wow, three full-time jobs! Mom, teacher and mompreneur.
> I have a 6 year old boy and a boy who will be 2 in a few weeks. My 6 year old has autism, but is very high functioning. We tried public school last year. TOTAL disaster. They placed him in a special ed class because of his autism and because he is still in pull-ups. When they tested him at the beginning of the year he was testing 2nd grade or above in all subjects. When they did the end of year testing for his kindergarten assessment, however, he failed almost every subject. He had fallen below kindergarten level!
I am not surprised. Academics based kindergartens send many children into shut down. It is not the they cannot do the work, or that they cannot learn, they simply shut down and are overwhelmed. When I was a kid, kindergarten and preschool were nonacademic. Kindergarten was designed to acclimate children to being somewhere other than home, with other children and adults in preparation for school. Preschool was almost non existent. It was day care where children were kept safe, clean, and happy.
> They wanted to keep him in the same class for this year. I was panicked, thinking, “No, he shouldn’t be in this class. This class is ruining his bright intellect and making him hate learning.” What was I to do? I prayed so hard about it, and was inspired to homeschool him. I had always planned on homeschooling my children, but when a child with austism came along I thought I would not be equipped to give him what he needed. Then it hit me that I was probably the only person who can give him what he needs. The schools certainly can’t– last year was proof enough of that.
You are a wise mom! Some things to understand about Special Ed classes:
1) Boys are more likely than girls to be in special ed.
2) Once in Special Ed, most never get out of special ed.
3) The schools get extra money for every special ed kid they teach, there for there is little incentive to help children become fully functioning.
My kids shut down in public school too. That led to me home schooling. I find that God has a way of qualifying us for the work He sets us to do.
> So now we are working together at home and what a blessing it is!!! Wow. It is so wonderful. My sweet little son has rediscovered his love of learning again.
Great!!!!
>I have only run into one snag, and that is math (we are using k12 math). He hates doing math problems more than anything. In fact, if you set a math worksheet in front of him, or even a little dry-erase board with only one math problem on it in front of him, he has a complete meltdown. I mean the worst meltdown you can imagine. If you have an austic child or have been around one, you know what I am talking about.
Ah, yes, the ridgid thinking that can go with autism, and many children. This is what is called ZPD (zone of proximal development). Which is the the difference between actual developmental level and where your child needs help. Many children do not do well in that spot. It is a place of high anxiety. About 60% of boys are not developmentally ready for kindergarten at age 5. This is one reason I do not like the age/grade system we have moved to in America. The typical classroom will have children that are functioning two grade levels below to two grade levels above. I really feel the one room school without grade levels were better. It recognized that learning is a continuum and that all agemates are not alike and do not unfold developmentally at the same rate.
Our schools have turned math into drudgery of workbooks, worksheets, and long chapters of problems that tend to obscure the idea that math is useful. Math is a language and I feel it should be learned as such. Many children learn the process of the problems but real application eludes them. A friend with a daughter with a 4.0 in advanced high school math asked her daughter if she knew how it was applied. Her daughter told her no, but that the aim was not application but to learn how to think. I personally think that is baloney. Many children struggle with math equations because they are symbolic language they are not developmentally ready for. That is not to say they cannot understand and use math, it is just the written math they struggle with. Think of how we learn our native tongue. Written grammar and rules are not what we usually teach infants, toddlers, and young children; it is more than likely the last thing we learn, not the first. We hear the language and the stories. We experiment with it. We begin speaking and slowly build vocabulary. We sing and learn rhymes and listen to stories. Eventually we learn the mechanics of hand writing and eventually about junior high we get grammar in its fullest. Math is very similar. It is abstract like grammar. Both are symbolic and that symbolism is very abstract. Meaning there is nothing about the word “verb” that would tell you what it means, it must be memorized, the same with math and scientific notation, they are not self evident and must be memorized. Once memorized we also need to memorize how to use them.
Math is great learned in the context of everyday life. Cooking, games, songs, stories, and such. When it is practical and applied it does not have the same issues as trying to shift to the symbolic. Most children go through changes in the brain during puberty that helps them develop the cognitive ability to deal with abstraction, and believe me, math notation is symbolic abstraction. Children often struggle with this because they are learning the math concept, memorizing the abstract symbols, and learning how to work abstractly, all before their brains are developed to deal with abstraction. Children in many country schools during the late 1800s did not study math as a symbolic study until they were 10-12. Then they would learn in one school year, all it takes our schools eight years to teach. They were able to do this because children in the country lived math, so they got the practical application, and because these children were now reaching puberty and able to better grasp the symbols and to think abstractly. The textbooks only taught the concepts and they had no worksheets, no endless tedium of problems to work in the book, and no workbooks. They already understood math, they just needed to learn it symbolically, and how to work it out symbolically. They would work through problems on the board and there they would demonstrate their understanding. At the right stage of development they could do this easily.
> I have tried everything I can think of to get over this aversion he has. I’ve tried writing math problems in the sand, writing them in shaving cream, writing them on the bathroom mirror– anything to make it seem less like a “worksheet.” We have tried using all sorts of manipulatives. But his reaction is still the same.
Again, this is all symbolic and he may just not be ready for symbolic abstract learning. He also may be so traumatised by the classroom experience that he truly has rigid thinking on math and it may take a long time to overcome fears associated with such. He may need a long detox time, while he learns math by living it.
> The only way I can get him to do math is by making it into what I can only describe as a play. I have to make up a story, and together we act it out, and he figures out the math. It’s kind of like story problems in your math book, only acted out and in much more detail.
Ah, role play. Children’s play is often mimicking life. This kind of play is practicing being grown up. Something they want very much to be. So their play is their work. Basically, you can live and learn to see the math in what you do and help him learn to use math without calling it that, or you can make up stories about other people or yourselves that use math. Math stories is one way children without math context learn to apply math. So, give him context, or real life. The graded math books with story problems were designed to help children that had little math context understand application. Traditionally, mass schooled children in the graded public schools in America tend to do poorly on converting symbolic math into word problems and word problems into symbolic language. I feel they lack context and they are not developmentally ready for it.
> It’s very intellectually and emotionally draining on me to always try to come up with these new and exciting “plays” we can do that involve math. I have been asking around and overwhelmingly other homeschoolers have told me they like Right Start Math best. But in looking at it– worksheets, lots of manipulatives– it looks extremely similar to what we are using now. I don’t know what to do.
Ask around and you will find that many homeschoolers are still looking for a math silver bullet. A look into many homes would show that many families have math power struggles and result to nagging, bribing, or withholding privileges to get their children to finish math work drudgery their children are not developmentally ready for.
> Help! Does anyone have any suggestions?
Yes!
1) Charlotte Masons says about teaching math that we should “…demonstrate everything demonstrable.” I like to explain while doing , in context, when they are young. I called this living math. Charlotte did not teach notation until “When the child is able to work pretty freely with small numbers…”
2) Tell him math stories.
2) Try Living Math! I have since discovered this website: http://www.livingmath.net/
Mahalo,
Donna